What NOT TO SAY to a pregnant lady… and suggestions of possible alternatives that wont result in a right hook to the kisser.

I know this is a topic I have touched on before {like here and here}… but since people continue to amaze me, I find the need to address it ONCE AGAIN!

You would be surprised the ridiculous things that come out of people’s mouths when talking to a mommy-to-be. I’ve touched on a few of the “are you kidding me?” comments I’ve gotten throughout my pregnancy, but I thought I would highlight a few more just for fun… and provide suggestions for alternative comments that won’t earn you a preggo biotch slap.

When someone announces that they are expecting:
DO NOT SAY… Oh wow, was it planned or an accident?
Instead, say… Congratulations, you must be so excited!

When someone tells you they are just beginning their 2nd trimester but they look big enough to be well into their 3rd:
DO NOT SAY… WOW, you already look like you’re going to pop! Are you sure you’re going to make it to 40 weeks?
Instead, say… That’s great, how are you feeling?

When you learn that someone’s baby is due within a few days of Christmas:
DO NOT SAY… Oh, poor kid. Sucks having a birthday that close to the holidays.
Instead say… Aw, what a wonderful gift!

When someone starts to talk about the labor process:
DO NOT SAY…. Oh gross, that’s the most disgusting thing ever, I can’t even think about that, ew.
Instead say… NOTHING… walk away if you are totally grossed out. A woman who is prepping for the miracle of life does not want to know how ‘gross’ you think she is for bringing another human into the world. Thanks.

When someone tells you they are planning on having a natural childbirth:
DO NOT SAY… What, Oh My God, that’s going to hurt so bad! You’re going to be in so much pain!
Instead say… Wow, you’re a stronger woman than me, I don’t think I could handle it but I hope your plan works out.

Let me remind you that I am fully aware that people’s opinions of having kids and being pregnant are going to vary and it’s not for everyone. That’s fine! But realize that, just because something comes to your mind, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t filter it as it transitions to someone else’s ear… ESPECIALLY if they are pregnant! If you fail to take my advice and choose to go with any of these DO NOT SAY options, I think every mommy-to-be should have full rights to unleash her super hormonal preggo powers and take you OUT. So just beware… one day, we may retaliate with full force!

 Until next time…

Heard any doozey’s lately? TELL ME ALL ABOUT IT!


15 thoughts on “What NOT TO SAY to a pregnant lady… and suggestions of possible alternatives that wont result in a right hook to the kisser.

  1. Last time I went to the doctor, my mom came with me because she was visiting me. At the time, I was about 15 weeks so I took the opportunity to begin the conversation with the doc about how I’m going to go about delivering the baby. My mom (who is extremely politically incorrect anyway, but I’m used to it by now) starts going on about how “out there” water birth is and how only hippies do it, blah blah. What I couldn’t believe was when the doctor joined in and started making jabs at water birth and how “it’s really only performed on the left side of the country” (I live in NC.)

    Anyone want to be objective, just for a second? And not disrespectful to the pregnant lady? Pretty please? Other than that I like the group this doc is a part of. I just thought it was distasteful for him to try to get in good with my mom with no knowledge that she and I don’t agree on, well, most things.

    • That’s nuts!!! Shouldn’t your doctor be a support system for whatever decision you choose? That stinks lady but I say you go for whatever kind of birth plan you want!

  2. We told a friend of a friend at a wedding that we were expecting and she looked at me straight in the face and said, “that sucks.” I was too speechless to respond!!

  3. My best worst comment ever was about four days before I was due when this old lady drove past me as I was walking back to my car. She stopped and asked me if I was miserable. This was early September, so it was still warm out and I was kind of miserable, but I did not need this old lady to point that out. I don’t think I will ever forget this comment.

  4. I have to say that when I tell people I want to do natural, they literally look at me and laugh! This includes family and friends! I wanna be like really, leave me alone and let me try!!!! Some of the comments are how crazy I am and how I obviously have never had a kid before… and the best, you DO know that labor hurts right? its like no really! Tell me something I don’t know. HAHA Too funny!!!

  5. Ok… am I allowed to comment on this like 2 years later?!?! Because these are some of my favorite I have gotten(all from coworkers)

    So if it is twins- were you on fertility treatments?
    Wow- you look really uncomfortable today!
    You look about done.
    You’re already waddling? Be prepared for bed rest.
    You’re huge.

    I just want to know who raised these people.

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